Are you a BOSS Lady?

The term ‘boss lady’, especially when used in the context of manipulative control, doesn’t appeal to me much if any. When used to represent a no-nonsense, kickass, and go-getter approach to attaining one’s goal surely, I’m all in.

It was bright sunny Saturday morning and I was exceptionally cheerful. Particularly because I was doing something outside of my routine on this day. Usually I stay home and do chores, business or simply sleep – the choice is all mine. This morning though, I was attending a business event. It wasn’t just a regular event, it was a BOSS Lady’s event (BOSS is Building Opportunities for Sweet Success). I was pumped up. The day didn’t disappoint either.

As I drove to the event I contemplated doing something which has become a bit too frequent – something that many other BOSS ladies are familiar with. I wanted to apply my makeup whilst in transit. I didn’t do it at home as I never wanted to be late to get to the Pegasus Hotel.


This was one of the times I prayed for the red at the traffic light. My prayer was answered on a few occasions but guess what? Each time I get the red, there was no one in front which means that there was much more pressure on me to be alert to know when the green comes on. As a side note, driving in Jamaica dictates that you move the very second (or before) the green comes on. Failing that, you are met choice words of varying colours.

I began to pray to get the red but to be behind other vehicles. And then something hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized how much of a metaphor for life this thinking was. Many times, we pray and seek after opportunities, but then when they come we begin to even second guess if we are deserving of it or whether we can handle the responsibilities that accompany them.

An epiphany came immediately. I was to recognize the season I’m in. If you grew up in church you know the song, “I’m next in line for my blessing”. We have been singing that song for so long that we are the counter ‘being served’ and we don’t even know it. Words are powerful. Don’t make the mistake of reversing your position by your own words.

The season I’m in is a winning season. One that dictates that my mask has to go on first so I can be equipped to bring others along to win too. It’s a season that recognize, that like the “Good Samaritan”, I have stop briefly to assist but then continue on my journey to take care of what I must so I can return and give extra assistance where necessary.

We cannot give from empty cups. As entrepreneurs, we take care of so many tasks, teams and everything and everyone else. We often neglect our own personal needs. We must stop to appreciate the season we are in and act accordingly.

I’d like to hear from you. What season are you in? Leave a comment below.

Heneka Watkis-Porter is a serial-entrepreneur, cultural ambassador, sociologist, author, speaker, fashion designer and podcaster. She wakes up every day with a grateful heart as she lives her purpose of “life transformation through inspiration”. She is the leading lady behind Patwa Culcha International, the company that owns the authentic Jamaica clothing brand, Patwa Apparel.
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