But what does that really mean and how can you attain it? For some people, it is an ideal that seems like mission possible, only for a select few.
Many people, in fact, are unaware that they are deserving of a great life. They believe it is only for persons who were born to specific families, born in certain neighbourhoods or even born with particular hues.
Understanding and believing that you are in the driver’s seat, that you are in control of your happiness and living your best life now is necessary for your success. Knowing the things that you must do to achieve this is even more paramount.
Here are 3 Simple things to help you live that life that you are dreaming of.
- Understand your purpose in order to declutter your life
Mark Twain left us with these words, “the two most important days in a person’s life are the day you are born and the day you find out why”, and equally brilliantly echoed in another way by Myles Munroe, “The greatest tragedy in life is not death but life without a purpose”.
Did you know one of the biggest reasons for your unhappiness is that you take on tasks, opportunities, etc. because you are unsure about who you are and why you are here as on earth. When you know your purpose, you know what you must say yes to and the things you must reject. Begin to take an introspective look at where you are now. If at this point you are still unclear as to why you were created, start asking of yourself and those around you, what is the one thing I can do with my eyes closed? What I am great at? I am most at peace doing _____, and you fill in the blanks.
The word NO is a complete sentence and purpose will give you an appreciation for this and you will begin to experience happiness not someday but NOW. Eliminate the things that don’t serve you so you will have space for your purpose.
- Know the season you’re in
On a bright Saturday morning, I took a detour from my routine of either working on my business, doing house chores or simply lying in bed till some point in the afternoon. I was on my way to a women entrepreneur’s event. As I drove, I wanted to get the red at traffic lights but I prayed not to be at the front of the line when stopped. This was because I wanted to apply my makeup and if I’m at the front of the line it would be a challenge to see when the light changed to green. I wanted to be behind other vehicles so that I could see when they move off.
Then like a ton of bricks it fell heavily on me. Why was I rejecting being at the front of the line? Why did I not want to be in the lead? Why was I comfortable in second place? I had a serendipitous moment. I thought to myself, so many times I, like the many others who are part of the church, keep singing, ‘I’m next in line for my blessing”. Have we stopped to recognize that we are actually at the front of the line? Not only are we at the front of the line but we are at the counter being served. Yet we are singing melodiously, like the Angels in Heaven, “I’m next in line for my blessing”.
To everything under the sun there is a season. You must be alert and be intuitive enough to recognize the season you are in. If you are in a season where you must apply your own mask first before you can help others, take the time to apply your mask. You cannot give from an empty cup. The good Samaritan stopped briefly to help the man in need. Then he quickly moved on, continuing to take care of his business then he went back to continue his Good Samaritan duties.
Recognizing your season will allow you to be happier. If you are in a season that requires that you give attention to your development, you will not feel guilty when you are not able to give assistance to others during that time. Oftentimes it is the guilt that accompanies our NO that is the root of our unhappiness.
- Choose ye this day with whom you spend your time
According to Jim Rohn, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most of your time with”.
This principle, based on the law of average, suggests that if you are spending time with a bunch of losers then of course….The converse is also true. Since those closest to us impact us, when we share out time with super successful people, our success odds also increase.
I’m working on a project that it’s safe to say it’s ground-breaking at least in this part of the world. I reached out a someone who is pretty much the Steve Jobs of Apple in their industry. I sent a 90 second video stating the project, my ask and that I will would follow up with additional information.
He responded by first saying that he liked the video and congratulated me on the things I’ve been doing. He then went on to say that what I’m requesting is something that under normal circumstance he would have said no to. However, he loves what I’m creating and he wants to be part of it.
I’ve made it part of my duty to be strategic with the people I allow in my space and spend time with. So now it is not uncommon to have emails from persons like Chris Ducker, Amy Porterfield, John Lee Dumas, etc. – and these are not subscription emails.
I say this to make the point that other people, can affect our moods, attitudes and overall behavior which in turn affect the decisions we make including those having to do with our happiness.
Like Abraham Lincoln said, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Beginning today, decide to live the life you want by:
- Understand your purpose in order to declutter your life;
- Know the season you’re in;
- Choose ye this day with whom you spend your time
I wish for you nothing less that true happiness as you live your best life now.
What are you doing for your hapiness today? I’d love to hear from you. Comment below.
. I don’t believe animals are able to do that. This is a treasured gift made available to humans.
In our quest for a deeper understanding of life’s meaning, and to get clarity, over time we develop our self-identities. With this search, the age-old questions of ‘who am I?’ and ‘why am I here?’ top the chart of ‘frequently ask questions’ that can be found anywhere. This cannot be avoided. You see, we weren’t randomly placed on this earth to make up numbers. Much like a piece in a zig-saw puzzle, each of us forms part of a bigger picture of this thing called life. We were meant to play specific roles. I can’t fill your shoe neither can you fill mine.
Since this is true, we must continue our quest to identify what that purpose is. What is that great work that causes your soul to stir? What is the thing that drives you to rise and shine in the mornings? What is the last thing you think about before your go to bed? What is that problem you can’t wait to solve in the mornings?
The answers will be different for everyone but one thing remains constant – it gives us life.
I have narrowed my purpose down to this – “life transformation through inspiration’. The reason I get up every day and do what I do i.e. podcasting, writing, speaking, entrepreneurship, is that I get a platform where I can inspire others to action through my story. Many people live vicariously through my eyes. Now everything I’ve ever been through in life makes sense. The depression, abuse, pain, neglect, rejection…it’s all abundantly clear, why. My life is a story of transformation, hope and triumph. And I love it.
Are you living on purpose? Here are some ways in which you can be sure.
- It is true that if you love what you do, you will never have to work a day in your life. When you truly love what you are doing you will be excited about doing it. The result is an obsession that is almost inexplicable and you enjoy every moment of it. This gives you joy and a true sense of reason for living. In the moments that you feel like you want to stay in bed and simply let time pass by, there is a constant reminder of the reasons not to and your energy comes from that.
- There are times others may be trying to get your attention but you are so focused it appears that there is no one around. You are always focused when doing what you love. You do not allow yourself to get distracted. ‘Random’ social events will not appeal to you much, as your gaze is affixed on your prize.
- You have a strong underlying belief that you are doing what you were created for. You may have tried several things before and soon found that your interest in them disappeared as quickly as they came.
- You keep a clear vision all the time of where you want to reach irrespective of any ‘failure’ that may happen along the way.
- Even with a clear vision, there are times you are not quite sure of what to do. As chapters unfold and phases roll out and define themselves, you stay open to guidance from professionals, books, CDs, the internet or whatever resource is available to you. Although it is your purpose, you will never be able to accomplish it alone. Forging strategic alliances with the right people and organizations and having the right tools, is a sure way to get ahead.
- You keep going when the going gets tough; in those times when things don’t seem to be going right. The odds all appear to be stacked up against you; yet you refuse to give up because you know that anything that is worth fighting for usually comes with challenges
- You surprise even yourself at your persistence and drive to press on. Challenges are inevitable; it is how you deal with them that will determine whether you are doing what you were called to do. Despite the challenges, hurdles, trials, tribulations and frustrations, you look in retrospect with delight knowing that you have totally enjoyed the experience anyway and have no regrets. The mistakes were merely lessons to learn from. You say to yourself, these mistakes only meant that you tried something new.
- Sometimes you find that many of the opportunities that are aligned to your purpose just seem to fall into place easily and things appear to ‘just happen’. The telephone calls, emails, connections and people just seem to appear serendipitously to give guidance and assistance; things that seem to happen out of the apparent blue. The truth is, nothing happens by chance.
I’d love to hear about your purpose. Leave a comment below.
I am so passionate about educating people about the law of attraction because learning about it changed my life dramatically. My experience has shown me over and over and over again, that by directing our focus on what we want, and away from what we don’t, we can let in more of the former and less of the latter.
By engaging in some self-reflection, teasing out the beliefs that weren’t serving me, and shifting them, I created a whole new reality. Like anybody else, I am on the proverbial journey and I’ll never be done. And for the most part I have made peace with that…I’m human just like the rest of ya.
As anyone who reads my blog regularly knows, I often share experiences from my own life to show how I apply this knowledge and how it has helped me. Like many other people, my ‘professional’ life is one area in which I put a lot of energy manifesting-wise.
It is an area that occupies a lot of my time and attention. It is an area where we have learned a bunch of ‘stuff’ that really doesn’t serve us well, and can bump heads with the wisdom of conscious creation.
So I wanted to share some insights that I think will be helpful for people, but not just for people concerned with their business. These lessons are applicable to anyone wanting to manifest anything, as the basic tenets of attraction are the same no matter the type of manifestation.
I started writing this and realized that I had gone to my usual post length and hadn’t even covered all the points so there will be a part two.
I hope you enjoy it.
DON’T LOOK TO OUTCOMES TO SEE IF THINGS ARE ‘WORKING’
Let’s face it…we don’t fully trust in this whole LOA thing, and this is true no matter how much we manifest to show us, in fact, there is something to it. When we are contending with a situation that still isn’t to our exact liking, there is that niggling fear that things may not work out. We haven’t totally stripped our conditioning away.
We really want that ‘proof’ our efforts are bearing fruit. We want to see movement. We want those results. We want feedback. We want validation.
And this tendency is understandable. But, at the core of this need, is a lack of trust in the process, a fear we won’t get what we want. Again, understandable to have this.
But while we may not be able to eliminate it completely, we do have to work on it.
I may be one of the few bloggers who doesn’t check their ‘stats.’ I have no idea how many people read my blog. I have no idea where my traffic is coming from. I don’t do any sort of ‘analysis.’ When I first had my blog, I did check this information.
And I didn’t like how it made me feel. I was basing how I felt on outside circumstances. When I had a lot of visitors, I felt good. When I didn’t, I felt badly. I wondered if my stats were ‘good’ or ‘bad’ for a new blogger, blah, blah, blah.
Knowing what I knew about the law of attraction, I realized this habit was detrimental…looking to the outside will always fuck with our energy. By looking to the outside, we lose touch with our inner voice that provides the most effective guidance and feedback of all. We diminish our power. We chip away at the positive momentum we have built through our ‘inner work.’ We forget the law of attraction is not ‘magic’ and most things don’t change immediately.
I knew that if I kept creating the content that I felt compelled to create, if I kept doing something that was making me feel good, which was writing the blog itself, I would get to where I wanted to be. I knew I would be led to inspired actions that would draw ‘my people’ to me. I knew it would lead to all sorts of opportunities that would allow people to find out about me.
I recently started my ebook series about the law of attraction. I have no idea how many books I have sold. When I get my first royalty check, I suppose I’ll get some clue. But, I don’t check the sales because ultimately it doesn’t matter.
It feels good to write them, and people will buy them. I haven’t set any sort of goal income-wise with the books, because I really can’t control that. And know why I can’t control that? Because there is nothing I can do to make people buy them.
Maybe it will turn out to be a really solid source of income, or maybe I was inspired to write them because somehow this will open up some other opportunity of which I can’t conceive in my mind right now. At first I checked to see if I got reviews, and they were all really good, but I don’t anymore.
Maybe people are leaving more positive ones, or there are people who are leaving negative ones ,because they don’t buy into the law of attraction, they don’t like my writing style or a dozen other reasons.
Naturally I want people to like them, and find them helpful, but again, can’t control that. If there are people who don’t like the books, so be it. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter.
While validation in the form of positive feedback is always nice, we can’t rely on that. If we feel good about what we are doing, or we know it is the right thing for us in the moment, that is all that matters.
Of course, we may get feedback that can be helpful for us, and taking it into consideration can be of some benefit. This is surely the case at times, but often this feedback isn’t helpful, it’s just someone else’s opinion and nothing more. You’ll know if there is something of use in there, and you can make the necessary adjustments to whatever it is you are doing.
Our energy is our point of creation, and as long as you are aligned with what you want, and are feeling good about getting it, you’re going to get there. The path may not look like you think it is supposed to, or the manifestations may not be the exact ones you have in mind, but you’ll get there. But I digress…
Don’t always be looking for the ‘proof’ you are on the right course. Don’t look for others to validate you, and tell you you’re doing good or you are ‘right.’
If you are aligned, you’ll certainly get that feedback, so don’t worry…we all like it, and need it sometimes, and it’s okay.
I ,like anyone else, enjoy the comments, and emails, from people saying they like my work and it is helping them. I enjoy my clients telling me our work together has helped change their life. But I know that ultimately I can’t always be on the lookout for that.
FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION AND FEELINGS
This is easier said than done, and we may not always succeed. The difficulty in doing this is one of the things that slows our manifestations down big-time, but it just is what it is. We weren’t encouraged to operate from this space, and we just won’t go full bore, simply because we now know more about the law of attraction, and how our feeling is our point of creation.
But when we do operate from this space, boy, does it feel good, and boy, do things come together nicely.
When I first started my blog, I read very little about blogging. It really didn’t interest me. This wasn’t from a space of feeling like I knew everything and had nothing to learn. It was more from a space of just doing things in a way that felt right to me.
I didn’t care about what words I should include in a title to pique interest, the different styles of blog posts, doing outlines or whatever. I just got an idea about a post and wrote it.
That’s not to say we should never seek out advice from others who are traveling a similar path or working towards a similar goal…there are times when it will be very helpful. Again, when that is something that will be helpful for us, we’ll know it.
But I didn’t feel lost or stuck in any way. I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted to do, and I just did it. My feelings let me know I was on the right track. And at times when I did feel stuck about certain things, I managed to attract the very information, that was perfect to help me.
While I was obviously writing my blog for other people to read, I wasn’t overly concerned with how other people might perceive the topics, my style or whatever. I was writing what felt good to me, and what was interesting to me.
My idea to write my ebook series came to me during a silent meditation retreat, and it felt so good and right. I was excited. And when I got back, I started writing the books. I don’t know how many I’ll write. I am really enjoying it and people seem to really like them.
One day after Ryan and I did an audio interview on my blog, I felt inspired to start a podcast, and I just did. I really enjoy doing it and people seem to really like them. Will I do them forever? Don’t know. Right now I like doing them and I can see myself continuing for the long-term. But who knows what will happen?
By doing things that make me feel good, I am aligning with the energy of what I want, and as we all know, that is the most important thing we can do to reach the goals we have set for ourselves, and manifest the things we think will make us happy.
There is a tendency to really overthink our inspirations. We consider the impact over the ‘long-term.’ We let our mind get in the way and start questioning and picking things apart. We try to see 50 steps ahead when we just can’t.
If you follow your feelings, you will always be led down the right path, and the next steps will be revealed. The next inspired actions will surface. What are you being led to do right now? Do your best to just stay in the now, and heed those nudges.
DO THINGS YOUR WAY AND BE YOURSELF
If you were to have a conversation with me in person, you would find I sound much like I do in my posts and podcasts. I am totally myself. I never considered what sort of ‘image’ I wanted to project when I started. Like anybody else in this world, there are people that will resonate with me, and people that may not, for one of a million reasons.
Let’s take my tendency to curse. This isn’t to purposely craft some ‘edgy’ persona or to provide any sort of shock value. I simply don’t censor myself if the next word to come out of my mouth, or that I want to type, happens to be such a word.
I think cursing can be a great way to emphasize a point or to inject some humor. It’s not excessive, and I don’t think it makes me sound ‘rough’ or unintelligent. I actually don’t curse all that much in my day-to-day life.
Now many people would say that’s a big fat no-no when it comes to blogging and podcasts, because you may offend people. And that’s true…some people may find it offensive. But I don’t give a fuck. Ha, see what I did there? That’s their problem, not mine. You can’t please everyone.
My authenticity is what allows me to help people as best I can, and share what I have learned in the most effective way. It is what makes what I do fun and what makes me enjoy it.
If I worried all the time about presenting myself in a certain way, or I suppressed who I was, not only would that totally stilt my creativity, it would be a huge manifesting block, because it’s really hard to get exactly what you want, when you won’t let yourself be who you really are.
Living authentically means getting comfortable with the idea not everyone will gel with you, that not everyone will ‘get’ you, that people will most definitely make all sorts of inaccurate assumptions about you. It also means getting comfortable with the idea not everyone may like you either.
One of the reasons we are so reluctant to be ourselves is fear of people not liking us or criticizing us. But the great thing is, once you get more comfortable being who you really are, there is less insecurity and doubt within to be mirrored back to you, in the form of people criticizing and judging.
Remember our interactions with people are a manifestations of our energy just like anything else.
These people either won’t come into your orbit at all, or they won’t feel compelled to say anything, and will just turn their attention elsewhere—there will be no nasty remarks, blog comments, emails or whatever.
The people who do gel with you, and do ‘get’ you will find you. These are the people you are more likely to start encountering in your daily life.
Being into personal growth, and the law of attraction in particular, often calls for making really big changes in our life. It may call for doing things in a way that is the polar opposite of what you may have been taught to do.
And this can lead to a lot of fear about not getting the results we want. We worry that truly being ourselves is not appropriate, given a particular goal, or will hinder us in some way. If the way we feel inclined to do things, is not the way we have been taught we ‘should’ do them, this causes a lot of discomfort, and we are reluctant to trust ourselves.
But that all stems from limiting beliefs that contain within them very strong ‘declarations’ of how things are, that are just not true;or are based on the experiences of other people who have decided things have to be done a certain way, and there is no viable alternative, and again, is just not true.
Again, our energy is our true point of creation, and when we are aligned with what we want, we will get it. We can do things our way and we can be ourselves. We don’t need to conform.
Just because other people have done things a certain way to get certain results, doesn’t mean that is the only way to get those results. The perfect clients, friends and romantic partners will find you, and totally vibe with how you are.
I hope you enjoyed the post and found some helpful manifesting lessons within that are applicable to your current situation, no matter what area of life you are trying to improve. Have I applied this wisdom perfectly each and every time an opportunity to do so presented itself? Um…no.
But, I applied it enough to make really awesome changes in my life, and over time, it gets easier and easier to act in a way that is more ‘LOA-friendly,’ if you will.
There is certainly a learning curve with this whole conscious creation thing, but like I always like to remind you…thank God you don’t have to be ‘perfect’ to let in any of the good stuff.
What did you think of the post? Anything in particular resonate with you? Have you found any of these lessons to be helpful in your own manifesting journey? Would tips would you offer? Looking forward to your comments as always.
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