Kelli Cooper is a coach who specializes in the law of attraction. She believes there are many misconceptions about this teaching that stunt people’s natural manifesting abilities, and she hopes her teachings can clear them up, as well as bridge the gap between the theory and reality of manifesting.
Show Notes:
Here’s a fun question for you…If you could Only have one favorite food to eat for the rest of your life, what would it be?
The thing that comes to mind is something like broccoli and cheese rice. It is super cheap, super-processed. I like it, it was the first thing that comes to mind.
A lot persons have limiting beliefs about themselves…how can you overcome your limiting beliefs?
There are a couple of things I would say that is a part of the manifesting process that we can really over-complicate and get tripped up on. They say they try to change their belief and they just can’t. It turns into this almost impossible thing and people think that their beliefs create their reality and they can’t change. They think, ‘I’m screwed because I can’t change these thoughts’.
They believe that they are going to keep manifesting based on these beliefs. It really stresses these people out. I want to say it is not as hard as we make it out to be. Beliefs are just formed by our own minds from outside influences. Over time your mind starts making decision about what’s true and not true. You start manifesting things that mirror these beliefs back to you which solidify these belief, your mind takes that as evidence that, yes, this belief is true.
Realize that everything that’s happened in your life, whatever meaning you’ve assign to it, it is not any sort of objective fact. Your mind has decided that this happens and this is what it means.
Once you make a conscious choice to release these beliefs, energetically, you start to manifest evidence that it is not true. It starts with a willingness to release. As you start doing this, you will begin to manifest evidence that releases it even further. That’s not so hard. Techniques such as affirmations can help you to overcome limiting beliefs. It comes down to the choice to stop believing it. To our minds, it sounds simple, but it is really where it starts and the only thing you need to do.
What are some of the ways we can ensure we release these negative thoughts?
You do that in your life is a personal thing. Different things work for different people. You might find affirmations are really helpful for you, or writing out a list of things that are really good about you and reading it out in front the mirror while looking at yourself. This might feel stupid and uncomfortable but then after a while you begin to formulate a different image about yourself. It could be writing out a gratitude list. Find a way to consistently engage your inner world that benefits you. If you want to break up those habitual pattern, you need to feed a different energy into your being. As that becomes more dominant, what happens is the other side just naturally start to fall away without you deeply examining and dissecting all of the beliefs you have now.
Secondly, devote time to educating yourself about these sorts of topics, find teachers that resonate with you; find resources that resonate with you. It doesn’t mean you have to spend hours a day doing. To overcome that conditioning, you need repetition of the information.
Take us through, what really is the Law of Attraction
I think there is a lot of misconception that cause people to either dismiss it immediately or they kind of buy into it but the misconceptions kind of lead them astray on their journey of energetic transformation and they get super frustrated. They give up thinking the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. Or what happens is you’re in a point in your life that you are not happy but you think you can’t do anything about it, you don’t feel great but there is a kind of resignation that you’ve lived with – when you read about the teachings of the LOA and there is a part of you that think, I might be able to able to get this, or I like the sound of this and you actually start letting yourself want something, you start to hope that things can change for the better. What happens when you are not succeeding in making those changes, that often feels much more painful than it felt before when you thought you didn’t stand a chance. When you start to get excited about manifesting something, when you’re not getting it, it’s going to feel very painful and it causes people a lot of anxiety, frustration, sadness and anger.
One of the biggest misconceptions I want to clear up is that the LOA is not a tool that you can use to manipulate reality. It’s a way of explaining how reality works. You have control over your reality in the sense that you can control your energy. You can control your thoughts, feeling and perspectives. You get to choose what you believe, to choose how you feel every day. In that sense, you have a great sense of control. If you have a certain energy, you’ll have no choice but to manifest things that mirrors that energy back to you. That’s the true nature of your control. Thinking that you can use the LOA to manipulate reality into getting your wants and desires into exactly what you want, when you want, that’s not how it works. You can’t make people do things.
Want what you want but work on your energy as this is your true sense of control. Another thing to consider is that a lot of stuff our minds want is not really the best representation of what we want. Your mind is very limited in its belief. A lot times what the mind wants is actually the watered-down version of what we are capable of manifesting. Be open to want what you want but be open to the idea that maybe it’s not the best thing, maybe there’s a better representation because your mind doesn’t know infinite possibilities. It just knows what’s in front of its face and what’s already happened. It doesn’t know all the things that you are capable of and all the other possibilities that exist out there.
How to cultivate the right energy to attract the things we want?
Depending on what you want in life, you are going to have different beliefs that might vary between areas of your life. Especially with business where we have a lot of fear, the most core energy you can work on – realize that our biggest issue is that there is a force that runs through everything. The way we live now, we become separated from that. That separation causes all sorts of anxiety and fear that aren’t real. We kind of created that. You are plugged into a system that will always provide for you. You will always be taken care of. Money, clients, whatever resources you need to do your business, the people you need to meet, the opportunities, the education, will come.
Whatever your mind is envisioning for your journey, it’s going to look a lot different. When you make peace, you will save yourself form suffering. Be open to make peace with that.
It was such a huge thing for me especially in my business with money. The universe is like the best business partner ever, you couldn’t ask for a better business partner. In order to plug into that support system, you need to believe that it works that way. I always say that we have to hold up our end of the bargain energetically by believing that it works. You can’t tap into that system if you don’t believe it works. That’s more important than any practical action you take for your business. Nothing is going to serve you better than cultivating that mind-set. You’re going to have a lot harder than you have to work otherwise. With your business, work when you are inspired. Check your motivation behind your actions.
Final thoughts on using the LOA to become a better business person?
The first thing I would say is explore your money stuff. It is going to be super uncomfortable; look at your issues of worthiness and deserving. Make sure you’re on the look-out for conflicting energies. A lot of times with entrepreneurs we have this vision of what we want but there’s a part of us that don’t want any of those things; it’s afraid of the responsibility, the bigger audience, for then people might start to criticize you. You’re actually afraid of making more money because you think that will complicate your life in some way. You started your business because you wanted more freedom so there’s a part of you that’s worried about getting too busy and getting too many clients and too many request for things because all that freedom is going to go away. Be on the look-out for those conflicting energies. The sooner you can identify that, the more you can nip it in the bud and get more clarity as to how you want to run your business.
Main Take-Aways:
Your mind is unaware of the limitless possibilities that are available to you.
The universe is the best business partner available to you
You will always be given the resources you need for your success.
